Sunday, August 15, 2021

306 Hollywood

This past week I watched 306 Hollywood on Prime. Twice. I plan on watching it again this week. In fact, I loved it so much that today I drove up to Hillside and photographed the house. When I watch movies during the day, I usually make a note of it and a brief impression to add to my daily calendar entry before bed. The word I wrote and circled twice was: magical. 306 was unbelievably original and, like Dear Zachary, it introduces the viewer to someone, in this case, Grandma Annette, that they wish could have been a close friend. 

(photo kidnapped from amazon)

From the website:
When siblings Elan and Jonathan Bogarín undertake an archaeological excavation of their late grandmother's house, they embark on a magical-realist journey in search of what life remains in the objects we leave behind. 306 HOLLYWOOD transforms the dusty fragments of an unassuming life into an epic metaphor for the nature of memory, time, and history. 

It's a film that is better seen and felt than to try to do it justice with descriptions that will not measure up. I'm sure, like all documentaries, that it may not be for everyone, but I personally adored it. It made me sad that I didn't see it sooner as it would have urged me to film Nana Irma talking about her life and her thoughts. But moving forward I think I'll try to do a brief video interview with all my favourite people just to have as a little time capsule of who they were at a certain point in time. Isn't that just the best thing about art? When it inspires you to change your life in even a small way and make it better.

(How stinkin' cute is this little gem?!)

Email sent to Elan - Sun, Aug 15, 2021 at 9:57 PM:

Hello!

I watched your film this past week, twice in fact, and both times there was a specific moment that upset me. It was when your mother spoke of how she was not at the hospital when your grandmother passed. I am writing to ask you to pass this information along - when my great aunt was in a nursing home and the end was near, my mother and her sisters took turns staying at her bedside, always wanting to make sure that she was not alone. My mother had to run home quickly and told her aunt that she or one of the girls would be over shortly. By the time my mother got home the nurses called to say that Peggy was gone. The guilt, much like your mom's, was overwhelming until one of the nurses told my mother that this happens a lot, as some people will want to wait until they are alone to finally let go. That it isn't as if they were abandoned in their hour of need, but instead given the chance to go in private, perhaps as a way to spare the loved ones from seeing them pass. I know for you and your family it's been years since your grandmother died, but in case your mother was still guilt-ridden over not being there, maybe let her know that there's nothing to feel guilty about. That she gave her mom one last gift, the ability to leave this earth on her own terms.

Thanks to both you and your brother for creating such a moving and mesmerizing tribute.
Lisa Star 

Response - Aug 17, 2021 at 2:02 PM:

Hi Lisa -- 

Thanks so much for this lovely note, watching the film, and your extremely kind words in general. 

After the film came out, multiple people reached out to share that their loved ones also passed when the family had left the room or hospital. After many of these stories, my mom was able to let go of the guilt and understand that this was in fact something that happened often. However, I will share your note with her as well, as I am sure she will appreciate it. 

Thanks again for reaching out. 
Warmly,
Elan

Saturday, August 14, 2021

John Lewis

The first act of peace is to silence the war raging within.

(photo kidnapped from bc.edu)

Friday, August 13, 2021

Unique Vintage

I want, I want, I need, I need!!!! October is just within reach and I have a slew of wardrobe wishes on Unique Vintage, all starting with this fab sweater. I will show a great deal of restraint and just keep these beauties to my daydreams.

Then there's this super sweet yet creepy top:

And clearly I need this hair clip for when I wear my hair in a pixie versus my usual faux-hawk:

This ensemble is just pure perfection - love the blouse and love the skirt. Together they are magic.

Thursday, August 12, 2021

Support System


I have loads of supportive people as friends, family members, and those I include as part of my "logical" family. I remember once in about 2009 when I was leaving my parents' place to head home, my father stepped into the garage to have a smoke and flagged me down before I backed out of the driveway. I rolled down the window (literally in this case because I was driving Truman) and he leaned in to say that if I needed any money to get my children's stories published to let him know. I would have preferred him to ask to read them and show an interest in that way, but I still fondly remember him offering to foot the bill if I needed it. Others that have always been a great emotional support are Bishop, who is always there to give me advice on various crushes and fellas over the years, and Amy who was never judgemental during any of my depressions and mental health crises and was forever available to answer my random calls during said breakdowns. Most recently I've found Kayla to be a major support in my life. She's more than merely a friend and niece, she's become a confidante, a therapist, and a cheerleader. I'm extremely fortunate to have so many exceptional people in my life who seem to genuinely care and show it.

Wednesday, August 11, 2021

More Lovely Homes

Here are four adorable homes that I saw on Instagram and they instantly fed my daydreams. Especially the last one; it's just too damn cute.



(photos kidnapped from the following IG pages: tiny_homes.1 - thatjanebird (white home in DC) - wordyelaine (cottage in Sherrington) - tinyhomesig, photo credit: zorymory IG)

Tuesday, August 10, 2021

Nana Irma's Favourites

On August 21st, 2014 I asked Nana a serious of simple questions. Some of the answers she gave were very of-the-moment (marked with an *) while others were timeless favourites. I wrote them in a journal that I found today.

Colour: navy blue
Film: Gone with the Wind
Actor: Paul Newman *
Actress: “born 1885 (actually it was 1884) - Billie Burke” * (just re-watched The Young Philadelphians)
Boy name: Sean
Girl name: Megan
Food: “vegetable soup I had a great recipe.”
Singers: Nelson Eddy & Jeanette MacDonald
Song: Sway *
Sport: tennis
Car: Mini Cooper in beige with a canvas top *
TV Show: The Waltons
Author: James Michener
Best date: “Met Tom in 1939 at a fair in Willow Grove Park - popular with young people because of the slides and the carousel - the best date was just a picnic in the park.”
Best Vacation: “England with Tom. He found out his health wasn't doing so great and decided to travel.”
Celebrity crush as a teen: “Clark Gable - always like the older men!”
Celebrity crush now: Richard Gere * (Shall We Dance)
Transitional Object: “Never had a transitional object - had very few toys - sparse and very unhappy reflections of childhood. Don't like to think or talk about it.”
Best memory: “When I was married. We didn't have a wedding, just went to the priest's house.”
“At age 19 (when dating) Tom gave me a valentine and it wasn't red, it was yellow and I liked that. Everyone else had red and mine was yellow.”

Monday, August 9, 2021

PDX Weather Update

I'm certain that no one else finds this as funny as I do, but Melissa's video message to me today about this week's forecast in Portland just cracked me up. I mean, could she be any cuter!?